“If you searched for ‘how to stop stalking your ex?”, this blog is for you.

Why we check our ex after breakup

A person in a relationship unconsciously depend themselves on their partner for emotional needs and when they drift apart or breakup, it leaves them with a void. The emptiness which leaves them shattered for few months and leaving them with what-ifs and maybes, making them hard to cope up with the reality. In attempt to fulfill this void they check on their partner to feel some level of connectivity. Here are few other reasons for stalking your ex other than emotional dependency. Like –

• Fear of missing out (FOMO) – They have this urge to know if their partner has moved on before them or not.
• Unfinished business- Stalking can also happen due to not having full closure or in case where reason of breakup is not clearly known by them.
• Regular behavior- Simply because of being used to checking in daily.

Why breaking the cycle matters

Anything that hinders your emotional, mental or physical growth is considered as faulty behaviors. Stalking is one of those. It is not just an automatic response to fill your emptiness; it is a complete pattern to reduce your pace of healing or moving on from your past. Breaking this pattern becomes crucial to help you achieve your best form. It is also crucial because it will allow you to put an extra effort in your present rather than being stuck in the past. This was just the part of a picture. Below is a list of why setting yourself free from this pattern matters:

• It may look that you are looking for ‘answers’ but in reality you are actually feeding obsession.
• This also gives a reality check that you have no control on the person or the situation
• It will give you the power to decide where to put your attention and time.
• However, it allows you to realize that they are no longer yours to monitor.

Key takeaways

Breaking the cycle of stalking your ex after break up is not about moving on overnight. Instead, it is a slow process. It will help you gradually regain the confidence in self and repair your emotional space.

You deserve peace, closure and a chance to build a life beyond your past relationships.