Long distance love challenges

Loving is easier but loving across miles gradually becomes tougher. This is something which cannot be controlled by us especially if you are separated by any reason. Couple who started their relationship from long distance has comparatively different challenges than those who had to be in a distance for some reason. Many famous poetry from long time back says that distance makes love stronger, but in today’s globalized world distance is considered as one of the biggest enemy for loyal couples because people in love often forget themselves which is why it is important to remind them that being in relationship doesn’t mean you have to put your life on hold. Maintaining the balance becomes another task for couple to deal with. We will here discuss the various problems and their solutions.

Common problems in long distance relationship:

The best of chemistry and bonding of a couple gets tested when put apart for long period of times. There are numerable unique challenges for the two of them to fight off and make it all work.

10 major issues of long distance relationships are:

Struggles of communication
Pressure to visit
Different level of efforts
Imbalancing of independence and togetherness
Uncertainty about future
Growing apart
Financial strain
Scheduling conflicts
Lack of physical intimacy
Trust issues
Losing interest

Importance of couple therapy:

Couple therapy will help you with those inevitable challenges that relationships comes with like managing communication issues, handling stress, insecurities and even past traumas. Correct guidance and navigations must be

once considered with your therapists only for building healthier and more fulfilling connections.

As the therapist will help you so that you don’t feel guilty for struggling with the distance and it should be normalized. Therapy also encourages having open conversations about problems, goals and expectations. Couple therapy is not only for the crisis in relationship, it also improves communication skills, addressing insecurities and setting shared goals.

Here’s a look at how your therapist will help you in:

Strengthening communication skills
Addressing conflicts in a constructive way
Building emotional intimacy and trust
Creating a shared vision for the future
Coping with major life challenges

Ways to stay connected:

In a relationship it is important to keep the spark alive and in long distance relationship it is of emmence importance to keep reminding and reassuring each other of your presence. Being apart doesn’t mean that you cannot make memories of togetherness. Sending Innovative and creative gifts to your partner could be a way to show your love to them.

Amidst all the efforts made in a relationship, sometime things do not fall together. In a long distance relationship, the thought of breaking up with your partner gets so encouraged in your mind that you stop working for it. In those moments you must try to save your relationship by seeking professional help who will help you building and maintaining trust.

A practical guide:

The optimistic belief of couples that love and commitment can overcome physical separation, often make couple enter into long distance relationship which feels rewarding to them. But if the distance persists it will sooner convert into punishment by revealing hidden vulnerabilities. When you give your best, you might question yourself of being ‘too needy’ or ‘too available’ , then the role of a therapist is to bring out honest conversations about boundaries, needs and insecurities.

Author: Anushka Sharma